Enlightment and empowerment through musings, meditations, thoughts and such from a Pastor's Wife who has been subjected to many life’s difficulties within and out of the ministry. I GOT SOMETHING TO SAY!

Tuesday, August 20, 2013


People perish for a lack of knowledge. Make sure you are always reading your Bible and reading something edifying and/or related to your area of ministry. You won't grow without a proper diet. Make sure you intake spiritually healthy food for your soul.

Here's what I'm currently reading:

Friday, July 6, 2012


It's been more than a minute since I've participated in the Friday questions. Honestly, it's been more than a minute since I've posted anything. LOL! So here goes:


1. Is love at 1st sight possible? If it's an agape love, an unconditional love, then I'm inclined to say no. I believe many people think they are in love, and when it works out they say "It was love at first site," but I believe it was great infatuation that grew to love. You really can't have an agape love with a person you know nothing about.

2. How did you choose your pet's name? Pet's are not allowed in my home! Anything that can't help clean the house and/or work will not be taking residence with me. LOL!

3. What are you considering giving up (cable, home phone)? Cokes. I have a terrible addiction and it's causing too much weight gain.

4. How much do you pay your babysitter? Thank God I don't have use for this, because I really don't have a clue!

5. How "young" is old enough to babysit? 12-13, as long as the kid is responsible.

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Spread love

Love gives without EXPECTING anything in return! Relationships based on RECIEVING are destined for doom. When you give today to your spouse, boo, friends, loved ones, etc., give not because you expected them to give something to you or you feel obligated to give. Give just because you LOVE. Isn't that God's way? Indeed, it is! Spread REAL LOVE! Have a great day!

Thursday, January 19, 2012

If You Want Your Husband to Treat You Like a Queen.......

If you want to be QUEEN of the castle, you must first crown your husband KING! The S-word "submission" isn't a bad word.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

If you believe you won’t be able to excel or prosper as a person, ministry, church, or business without a “particular individual or entity”, you have placed more faith in that party than God. Thusly, the person or entity has become your God. Jesus said, “apart from ME (not your pastor, spouse, child, boss, church, etc.)  you can do nothing”  (John 15:5).

Be blessed,

Tuesday, July 19, 2011


Most of us were told "when you get married, you ARE going to argue.” The first year of my marriage, I endeavored to be the undefeated argument champion in my home. I didn’t seek to resolve conflict, I desired to WIN! After all, isn’t MY WAY THE WAY TO DO IT? So I thought!
A marriage is to glorify God. Marriage is to be a reflection of the relationship of Christ and the universal church. Keeping these two points in mind do you think you are glorifying God when you argue with your spouse? Do you think Christ argues with his people? Nowhere in the Bible do we see Jesus getting into an arguing match, so if Christ is our example of how to conduct ourselves, who are we patterning ourselves after when we argue in our marriage?

When a person tells you that you will argue in married, DON'T BELIEVE THAT LIE! It is a lie of the enemy. We must be careful of what we allow people to deposit in our spirit. If you believe you are going to argue you will argue, for the Bible says as a man think in his heart so is he.

The Bible does not tell us that couples are to argue. Conversely, it commands us to give respect to one another, to love one another, to be patient with one another , and to encourage one another. So why are we Christians buying into the lie?

As a couple, you both must agree to never argue again. God can give you that peace. I have been married to my husband for 19 years, with the last 18 being argument free!
The Bible says "Be angry and sin not" (Eph. 4:26). We have to learn to control our anger and not allow our anger to control us. Getting into yelling matches is losing control.

Yes, we will disagree as a couple on issues, however, a disagreement does not give cause to an argument.

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

The Cry of a Nagged-out Husband: MAKE IT STOP!

from Pastor T's wife.....Roline Thomas

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. (Proverbs 25:24 NIV)

It has been dreadfully hot in Little Rock. Temperatures have soared above 100 degrees with heat indexes over 110 degrees. A moment outdoors can be intolerable. Today, I really laughed out loud as I visualized a man sitting on top of his roof on a scorching hot day in an effort of getting away from his contentious wife. Proverbs 25:24 clearly warns a wife that a husband may take desperate measures to find peace. He’ll ask to work longer hours, stay out late at bars, increase recreational activities, or find himself in the arms of an encouraging woman just to avoid facing his nagging wife.

Wife, make sure your home is a place where your husband will find peace, encouragement, comfort, and solace. Your job is to build up your husband. There is a difference between CONSTRUCTIVE criticism and DESTRUCTIVE criticism. Even constructive criticism should be administered in moderation. Nagging will only cause a man to shut down, thusly, closing your line of communication with him. Instead of always highlighting his wrongdoings, make sure you daily celebrate your husband for the GOOD in him. Regularly compliment him. Praise his successes. Be his number one cheerleader. If speaking positively to your husband becomes routine, he will be more open and receptive to criticism. Besides, YOU CHOSE TO MARRY HIM!

Choose to speak words of life to your husband. Give him reason to be excited about coming home to you rather than preferring to sit on top your roof sweltering in the blistering rays of the sun. That’s a man desperate to Get away from his wife!  If you don’t give him peace, there’s an Angela, Betsy, and Carmenseeka willing to do your job.----This won’t be happening at my address, NOT ON MY WATCH!