If you believe you won’t be able to excel or prosper as a person, ministry, church, or business without a “particular individual or entity”, you have placed more faith in that party than God. Thusly, the person or entity has become your God. Jesus said, “apart from ME (not your pastor, spouse, child, boss, church, etc.)  you can do nothing”  (John 15:5).

Be blessed,

Roline

DON’T BELIEVE THE LIE - Arguing

Most of us were told "when you get married, you ARE going to argue.” The first year of my marriage, I endeavored to be the undefeated argument champion in my home. I didn’t seek to resolve conflict, I desired to WIN! After all, isn’t MY WAY THE WAY TO DO IT? So I thought!

A marriage is to glorify God. Marriage is to be a reflection of the relationship of Christ and the universal church. Keeping these two points in mind do you think you are glorifying God when you argue with your spouse? Do you think Christ argues with his people? Nowhere in the Bible do we see Jesus getting into an arguing match, so if Christ is our example of how to conduct ourselves, who are we patterning ourselves after when we argue in our marriage?

When a person tells you that you will argue in married, DON'T BELIEVE THAT LIE! It is a lie of the enemy. We must be careful of what we allow people to deposit in our spirit. If you believe you are going to argue you will argue, for the Bible says as a man think in his heart so is he.

The Bible does not tell us that couples are to argue. Conversely, it commands us to give respect to one another, to love one another, to be patient with one another , and to encourage one another. So why are we Christians buying into the lie?

As a couple, you both must agree to never argue again. God can give you that peace. I have been married to my husband for 19 years, with the last 18 being argument free!

The Bible says "Be angry and sin not" (Eph. 4:26). We have to learn to control our anger and not allow our anger to control us. Getting into yelling matches is losing control.

Yes, we will disagree as a couple on issues, however, a disagreement does not give cause to an argument.

The Cry of a Nagged-out Husband: MAKE IT STOP!

from Pastor T's wife.....Roline Thomas

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. (Proverbs 25:24 NIV)

It has been dreadfully hot in Little Rock. Temperatures have soared above 100 degrees with heat indexes over 110 degrees. A moment outdoors can be intolerable. Today, I really laughed out loud as I visualized a man sitting on top of his roof on a scorching hot day in an effort of getting away from his contentious wife. Proverbs 25:24 clearly warns a wife that a husband may take desperate measures to find peace. He’ll ask to work longer hours, stay out late at bars, increase recreational activities, or find himself in the arms of an encouraging woman just to avoid facing his nagging wife.

Wife, make sure your home is a place where your husband will find peace, encouragement, comfort, and solace. Your job is to build up your husband. There is a difference between CONSTRUCTIVE criticism and DESTRUCTIVE criticism. Even constructive criticism should be administered in moderation. Nagging will only cause a man to shut down, thusly, closing your line of communication with him. Instead of always highlighting his wrongdoings, make sure you daily celebrate your husband for the GOOD in him. Regularly compliment him. Praise his successes. Be his number one cheerleader. If speaking positively to your husband becomes routine, he will be more open and receptive to criticism. Besides, YOU CHOSE TO MARRY HIM!

Choose to speak words of life to your husband. Give him reason to be excited about coming home to you rather than preferring to sit on top your roof sweltering in the blistering rays of the sun. That’s a man desperate to Get away from his wife!  If you don’t give him peace, there’s an Angela, Betsy, and Carmenseeka willing to do your job.----This won’t be happening at my address, NOT ON MY WATCH!