By Roline Thomas 6/2/2011
In the church there are those who believe the pastor’s wife should have much Bible knowledge, pray a certain way, look a certain way, talk a certain way, and/or dress a certain way. As a pastor's wife it seems like everyone has a plan for my role in the church. You should sing, you should play the piano, you should work with the kids, you should wear a hat! When did God leave the Throne and give these people the authority to tell me what to do?! Expectations of church members are often too high for ministers, preacher’s wives, evangelist, etc. Actually they are usually UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
For a few years I stopped attending the midweek Bible Study. My children's homework and "at home time" was more important. Since dad is required to be at church, I stayed behind with the kids. I KNOW my kids benefited greatly from my move. However, I had to listen to the "sly remarks" from several members about my absence. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
I am a hat wearing DIVA, and wear one nearly every Sunday. This older sister came to me and told me a Pastor's wife is suppose to set the "dress tone" for the church and she should wear hats. This same lady doesn't wear hats. I wonder where was this "hat law" that she was reciting to me. And why should a Pastor's wife set the tone for attire?---people should be themselves, not someone else. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
In the church there are those who believe the pastor’s wife should have much Bible knowledge, pray a certain way, look a certain way, talk a certain way, and/or dress a certain way. As a pastor's wife it seems like everyone has a plan for my role in the church. You should sing, you should play the piano, you should work with the kids, you should wear a hat! When did God leave the Throne and give these people the authority to tell me what to do?! Expectations of church members are often too high for ministers, preacher’s wives, evangelist, etc. Actually they are usually UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
For a few years I stopped attending the midweek Bible Study. My children's homework and "at home time" was more important. Since dad is required to be at church, I stayed behind with the kids. I KNOW my kids benefited greatly from my move. However, I had to listen to the "sly remarks" from several members about my absence. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
I am a hat wearing DIVA, and wear one nearly every Sunday. This older sister came to me and told me a Pastor's wife is suppose to set the "dress tone" for the church and she should wear hats. This same lady doesn't wear hats. I wonder where was this "hat law" that she was reciting to me. And why should a Pastor's wife set the tone for attire?---people should be themselves, not someone else. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
We are to please God and God alone. Since he doesn’t place unrealistic expectations on you, why try to meet another’s? Ministers, and wives who fall into the trap of allowing others to determine your ministry-that is what you are to do in the church-do not know their God given purpose. You must not allow outside people to influence you. No one has the authority to tell you your purpose. You must seek God for direction in ministry, otherwise you will find yourself trying to meet UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
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